Blind Leading the Blind by Lorraine Triggs

It began with a simple, low-prep opening activity to the Bible story, “Abraham Followed God” for Kindergarten Bible school. Blindfold Teacher Wil and ask a few kids to give him directions to his promised coffee on the window ledge in our room.

It was a fine activity, until I thought it through a bit more on Sunday morning. You see, unlike adults' aversion to volunteering, I knew I would have 30 eager volunteers wanting to give directions to Teacher Wil. The question was how could I involve all of them? Then I walked into the preschool resource room for inspiration, and spotted the answer clearly labeled on a bin: foam hopscotch squares.

Back in the room, I randomly placed the squares on the floor. When it was time for large group and the activity, I grouped two-three kids around each square, the teachers strategically placed themselves between the squares, and Teacher Wil tied the blindfold over his eyes.

I stood by one of the squares and explained that when I stood by your square, it was your turn to guide Teacher Wil to the next square and number. They could say go straight, turn right, go back two steps and so on. We wanted Wil to get to his coffee at the last square.

It turned out to be a game of the blind leading the blind, as all the children shouted directions, clueless to right or left or straight—or the chairs until Wil crashed into them. We teachers added to the chorus, “Only give directions when it’s your turn. Teacher Wil can’t hear you.”

Despite the chaos, I am happy to report that Wil made it to his coffee without injury.

For a people who walk by faith, there are times we walk around more like the blind leading the blind, stumbling in the chaos that surrounds us. Unlike Abraham, who “went out, not knowing where he was going” (Hebrews 11:8), we want to know where we’re going. This uncertainty makes it easier to listen to other voices who promise to deliver the tangible results we want now, not later as we trek to a distant land. It can be tough to hear the right voice to follow when there are so many other voices shouting well-meaning but incorrect instructions.

Full disclosure here: I can handle the external chaos; it’s the loose ends in my life that I want tied up and neatly packaged. But what if those loose ends aren’t tied to the results I want, but tied, say to a shepherd’s staff that comforts me in the shadow of death. And what if that staff belongs to a very Good Shepherd who calls his own sheep by name, leads them to green pastures and still waters—who lays his life down for those sheep.

His is the only voice we need to hear and heed—the voice who calls us to follow him and his goodness and mercy all the days of our lives.

The Master has called us; the road may be dreary,
and dangers and sorrows are strewn on the track;
but God's Holy Spirit shall comfort the weary;
we follow the Savior and cannot turn back;
The Master has called us: though doubt and temptation
may compass our journey, we cheerfully sing:
"press onward, look upward," thru much tribulation;
the children of Zion must follow their King.
“The Master Hath Come”, verse two, Sarah Doudney

Engraved Invitation by Wil Triggs

It’s September, the month Lorraine and I got married.
 
We’ve been married for a lot of years, but not so many that I’ve forgotten the stress of not being married and planning our wedding. I remember it well. We had a weekly meeting to go over all of the nuts and bolts of our wedding plan.
 
The way we invite people to weddings has totally changed. We had engraved invitations sent out by mail with little reply cards enclosed so people could say if they were coming. 
 
Some might remember this response to a question with another albeit sarcastic question, “What do you want—an engraved invitation?” This is a rejoinder that has lost its meaning, I’m afraid.
 
So now would be the right time to tell you that our engraved invitation had a typo in it. It wasn’t either of our names. Most people might not notice or even know that it was wrong. But as two people working in communications, this was embarrassing to say the least. 
 
When Lorraine saw it, she said to me, “We can’t get married.” There wasn’t time to correct the mistake, so her answer was simple. No wedding.
 
From my way of thinking, we had two choices, mail the invitations out and live with it. Or don’t mail them and opt for a smaller venue. Not getting married was not one of the two options before us.
 
We mailed them out. People were gracious. We got married.
 
Most of the time now invitations are predictably electronic. We recently got a nicely designed announcement of a relative’s wedding. It’s on our refrigerator, and it directs us to the website where we can reply and also see their wedding registry. We are excited for them.
 
I have no idea how much their wedding is going to cost, but I know it will be a lot. 
 
One New York City couple featured in Brides magazine had an invitation list of 350 people. They would get married in a big cathedral, ride around the city in a double decker bus, stopping for photo ops at various landmarks, eat steak and lobster dinner in One Trade Center. The cost was about $150,000.
 
News agencies picked up the story, and the couple explained that they needed to figure out a way to winnow the guest from 350 to 60, the number of people who would fit on the double decker bus. “It was stressful,” the groom told the reporter. “We had to figure out a way for them to choose us, because we can’t choose them.”
 
So, this couple’s wedding invitation asked each invitee to purchase a ticket to the wedding day for $333 apiece. Problem solved: their guest list fell from 350 people invited to 60 who paid up. Everyone could fit on the bus.
 
A wedding between a man and a woman can be fraught--tensions with relatives or about-to-be relatives, disagreements between the bride and groom, more bills than necessary, awkwardnesses of where to seat different people, weather, food, flowers, the list could go on and on. 
 
The day comes and something new is born. The church witnesses the wonder: two become one. But there is more.
 
God’s invitation needs no whittling down. His invitation is extravagant, probably reckless from a mere human perspective. It’s a head-crushing invitation. This invitation can drown an army in a river, close the mouths of ravenous lions, keep people alive in the hottest of furnace fires. It’s a man impaled on a spike he fashioned for his enemy. It’s the hated brother who all but died rescuing the ones who threw him into a pit to die. It’s oasis in drought. It’s wine where water belongs. Its words engraved on hearts, a message written on bloodied hands and the side of the groom himself. It’s the proclaiming of love above all else. It’s the bride blushing with the realization that the groom longs for her. From betrayed to betrothed, she turns to him and says the words from the Last Supper with a new meaning, “Is it I?” (Mark 14:19)
 
Oil lamps filled in anticipation. Yes. Come.
 
Coming to the pagan jungles of Manhattan to the prisons of North Korea to the apartment churches hiding from electronic surveillance in China to the Christian widow in the Middle East who lives with her son and daughter-in-law who want her out of the apartment she gave them when her husband died, out because she believes in Jesus--all of them turning to Jesus with the blushing, humble shy beauty of a maiden who senses a love never before cast her way, looking into his eager eyes, she marvels, “Is it I?”
 
The Marriage Supper of the Lamb
Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out,
 
“Hallelujah!
For the Lord our God
    the Almighty reigns.
Let us rejoice and exult
    and give him the glory,
for the marriage of the Lamb has come,
    and his Bride has made herself ready;
it was granted her to clothe herself
    with fine linen, bright and pure”—
 
for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.
 
And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”
(Revelation 19:6-9)

An Expert in Resiliency by Lorraine Triggs

The title of the essay caught my attention: “I Used to Be Resilient. What Happened?” The writer, Erik Vance, went on to say that defining resiliency is tricky. We often think of it as standing up to adversity or the ability to bounce back or adaptability.

Vance wanted to go deeper than what he described as a “sort of tough-guy stiff upper lip” resiliency, so he talked to Michael Ungar, a professor of social work at Dalhousie University in Canada, who said that resilience is multiple processes that will make it possible for you to thrive under stress.”

In the essay, Vance cited an expert who said that she “has found the most powerful predictor of resilience to traumatic events is your connection to something larger than your own self, whether it’s God, family, country or just the local P.T.A.”

If thriving under stress is the mark of resiliency, the Apostle Paul may have been the most resilient person ever.

Wrote the apostle to his community (another predictor of resilience) who lived in Corinth, “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” (2 Corinthians 4:8‒9)

Resiliency experts also said that finding what keeps you balanced is crucial to resiliency—or not, if you’re Paul, our resident resiliency expert. He blurred the lines between work-life balance, with labors, sleepless nights, hunger, being poured out as a drink offering, all part of the job.

Paul certainly was resilient, but not for the reasons the experts gave. Paul flourished under stress because he knew that “suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”  (Romans 5:3‒5)

I don't always flourish under trials. I can be nagged by guilt of what I could have done to avoid the suffering, or there's a sense of shame that I am not quite up to living the victorious Christian life. Why else am I suffering?

Until I reread what Paul wrote in Romans. What? No guilt or shame there, but hope and God's love poured into my heart to his glory? I’m not ready to claim Paul’s title of the most resilient person ever, but I am ready to thrive and flourish.

The graced truth behind trials is that we never had the ability to flourish or bounce back on our own. We had to depend on another’s ability to bounce back from death to life, humility to exaltation, and along the way he calls enemies friends, makes old, new and turns light, momentary afflictions into eternal weights of glory.

At the Door by Wil Triggs

The doorbell rings: there’s a person there.
A student worker on summer break
Selling magazines or books, siding or roof repair
Asphalt, concrete, slate, tiles or shake.
A neighbor with misdelivered mail
A man peddling a patio sail.
 
So much for my uninterrupted day
This person, I wonder, is this a job of choice?
So the knock on the door comes anyway
When no bell finds answer, the knock finds voice.
I'll open the door knowing I’ll be saying no
To whatever it is on offer saying I don’t know.
 
The thing is, I don’t understand,
I start to feel bad for the salespeople,
the student or the woman or the man;
consider the bills, the tuition, the people
Depending on something coming in
A failed penitential sort of sin.
 
A heart, not mine, a door, not me
Am I so busy with the bride
The groom I cannot see.
To the backyard garden I hide
No door or window to open up
My drink half-drunk in the plastic punch cup
 
The knocking persists. Who will it be?
If open I find there scoundrel stood
Or something else, strange and free
Peddlers of distraction, not so good
The idle idols, no to everyone,
But in the no, the enemy’s won.
 
I give in, yes, open door wide to see
Open to the rag man Christ the lamb
Open to waves and lands, new stars sea
Vanquish my stubborn rebel ram
Crushing head dead this selfish beast
Replaced by merry lamb’s wedding everfeast.
 
So goes the knocking of eternity’s door
Give away to others, hear the wounded lamb roar.

Holy Ground by Lorraine Triggs

Unlike the Illinois State Fair nestled among cornfields and the State Capitol building, the Michigan State Fair, for years, made its home along Eight Mile Road and Woodward Avenue in Detroit. For my family and me, the state fair was the ideal destination for the last summer fling—all those odd giant vegetables, livestock, cotton candy and rides just a short city bus ride from our house.

The fair became part of my childhood memories until my post-college years. Friends had rented a house right across the street from my beloved fairgrounds. I thought it was so cool that they had their own place just out of college.

One summer evening, after dinner at their house, we sat on the porch looking at the fairgrounds that were still closed for the season. Funny, how I never before noticed how tired the buildings looked or the barbed wire at the top of the fence or the cracks in the sidewalk.

Our conversation drifted from the fair to books to our shared faith in Jesus. At some point, we stopped talking, and in the silence, something happened. The night turned solemn. We had been talking about really surrendering ourselves to Christ. We all knew that this was the point of no return—either we follow Christ fully or give it up.  In that moment, those scruffy, worn-out fairgrounds had become a holy place.

What makes a place holy? A wilderness becomes holy ground when a bush burns and isn’t consumed. Exodus 3 describes a curious Moses wanting to see this great sight, but there was something greater that God wanted him to see and understand—that Moses was standing on holy ground, ground made holy because God was with him, and God saw, heard and knew the sufferings of his people.

There’s a tent that becomes a portable holy place. It wasn't just any tent. It was a spectacular tent, and when covered with a cloud, it was filled with the glory of the Lord. And when the cloud was taken up, the children of Israel packed up the tent and moved on—following fire, cloud and God himself.

Major world religions boast of holy cities and sacred temples where their gods reside. People go on pilgrimages, choosing to spend thousands of dollars just to get to that holy place. Just to stand or kneel, just to see it, to be there.

But a historic city or landmark, a burning bush or the tent filled with smoke don't make anything holy. It's the presence of the Lord God Almighty.

The one true God, well, he chose us. The tent in the wilderness pointed to another, better portable holy place who left heaven to pitch his tent among “us to show his glory, glory as the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” (John 1:14), to bring life to the dead and light to those who walked in great darkness.

God also calls us and chooses us as holy and beloved ones to live out his grace and truth with “compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience” (Colossians 3:12), in places where ordinary bushes, tents, fire, clouds and fairgrounds and even our very bodies become holy ground.

Divine Comedy by Wil Triggs

Every year, I tell the Kindergarteners a secret. The teachers, the buddies and the students all hear the secret, and the rule is, they can’t tell anyone. Well, of course, they can tell their parents. I told them this secret last Sunday and I may remind them of it again this Sunday and then that will probably be the end of it until next year, when I tell then next group about it. The secret. It makes them smile.
 
You probably think I’m going to tell you the secret now, right?
 
Wrong. I’m not telling.
 
But if I did tell you, you would smile. You might even laugh.
 
So, there is another secret, a bigger one, that I can talk about.
 
We Christians like to laugh. We Christians laugh and we laugh a lot. That's the secret.
 
It hardly seems fitting for people called to be ambassadors of the next world, who are carrying a message to people bound for hell. The way of escape.
 
Once some friends of mine were doing a reading that was created to make people laugh—during a prayer meeting at the mission organization where I worked. It was a funny script. People couldn’t help but laugh. The laughter became contagious and almost everyone listening was laughing. We surprised ourselves with our inability to stifle or stop the laughs.
 
That was when one of the elder missionaries in the group stood and in his booming and dramatic radio voice said, “It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart!” (Eccl. 7:2-3, KJV—I added the exclamation point to capture the anger and volume).
 
That old Christian didn’t think laughter was ok. It was a frivolous sin. We were a band of serious-minded people on a serious mission. Like Abraham and Sara, or not.
 
Then Abraham fell on his face and laughed and said to himself, “Shall a child be born to a man who is a hundred years old? Shall Sarah, who is ninety years old, bear a child?” (Gen. 17:13)
 
The LORD said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh and say, ‘Shall I indeed bear a child, now that I am old?’ (Gen. 18:13)
 
And Sarah said, “God has made laughter for me; everyone who hears will laugh over me.” (Gen 21:6)
 
This is the laughter of our faith: laughter, the name of the covenant baby.
 
You can live life in a tragedy, or you can live life in a comedy.
 
Webster calls tragedy “a serious drama typically describing a conflict between the protagonist and a superior force (such as destiny) and having a sorrowful or disastrous conclusion that elicits pity or terror”
 
And a comedy is happy ending. Webster says it’s “the genre of dramatic literature dealing with the comic or with the serious in a light or satirical manner.’
 
Life is human tragedy walking down the aisle with divine comedy.

The magic trick with no sleight of hand. The transgressors forgiven. The unloved loved. The unchangeable changed.
 
His household is feeding and caring for Moses while Pharoah is out killing baby boys in attempt to get rid of his kind. It’s the patriarch reversing his hands in blessing. King Saul and King David. Queen Vashti and Queen Esther. Jonah complaining that God is gracious and merciful. Wine at a wedding where there was only water, lunch where there was nearly no food, the replacing of mourning wails with the stunned realization of life after hours or days of death. How could they not laugh with utter and unexpected joy?
 
The divine comedy is staged among tombs, where angels ask women why they are seeking the living among the dead. It’s the two walking down the road to Emmaus with a stranger and wondering if he’s the only visitor to Jerusalem who is clueless as to what had been going on these days. It's Eutychus falling asleep on the second floor, waking to find himself on the first with Paul having brought him back to life and now, heading back upstairs to listen to the rest of the message.
 
It’s God looking down at the kingdoms and rulers of the world and laughing at the paradox of the proud being cast down and the humble exalted. But also, it's truly seeing us, right here, right now. The day before us. The pains and sorrows and beyond, the smile, the chuckle, the full-on laugh. It’s his divine comedy with a beyond-happy happy ending.

But Wait, There's More by Lorraine Triggs

Whenever it was time for a parental lecture, my husband and I knew the exact moment we lost our audience of one. It was when we said the word “but.” No matter how well we were managing the conflict, that one simple conjunction would shut down all communication with our son.

If my social feeds are to be believed, that conjunction is trending among Christians of all sorts whose posts begin, “God calls us citizens of heaven, but—" or “Christ has made us one, but—" or “God is sovereign, but—" or “I know what Scripture says about marriage, but—“.

I am beginning to side with my son on that word “but.”  It seems like we should be more circumspect in this world where we push send or publish or post without a second thought.

Though not quite ready to block posts like these, I am bothered by the tone my now not-so-favorite conjunction implies that, perhaps in this situation, I know what is best. It’s an ancient human tendency to think that, or maybe it’s simply our need to do something. It's hard to shake the notion that God needs our help in salvation.

In God’s Word, even that pesky conjunction becomes a conduit of grace, especially in our most hopeless situation. “For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die—BUT God shows his love for us in that we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:7-8, all caps added by me)

It’s a conduit of grace when the psalmist hears “whispering of many—terror on every side!—as they scheme together against me, as they plot to take my life. But I trust in you, O Lord; I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in your hand
. . .” (Psalm 31:13, 14)

Too often, I say, “I trust you, Lord, but just in case, this is what I think should happen.” I want my times, in my hands.

Most of the time, my way is not the way of Christ. Judging by our posts, comments and remarks, we flip the narrative—beginning with God and ending with ourselves and what we can do, or what God can do with our special helping hand. But the comments betray us. We are not like him.

God begins with the hopeless helpless heart and ends with himself and what he does best. Where we want God to strike the enemy dead, God is making the dead alive. God begins with aliens and strangers and gives them citizenship, God speaks creation into being, the Word speaks grace and truth, and God breathes words that are pleasant and sweeter than honey. God alone rules from above with justice and righteousness. There is none like him. No, not even one.

What would happen if we flipped the narrative of our lives not only to begin with God and end with him, but to live in the middle parts for him, sheltering in the shadow of his wing, finding rest in the green pastures of his comfort, giving our wealth to the poor, surrendering our will to his even though it doesn't make sense to the worldly wise, daring to be like him in washing feet, associating with castoffs, welcoming the children, devoting ourselves to the prayers and the singing and the sacrifice of ourselves for the good of those who hate us. This is the freedom we long for.

Ears to Hear

I have been experiencing clogged ears on and off this summer, related I think to my sinuses. It’s not painful, but the clogging makes it hard to hear people. It can be comical on a day when I hear out of only one ear. Lorraine does her best to try to remember which side of my head to speak to. And then there’s the wonderful morning when I wake up and can hear without the clogged ear syndrome, clear as normal. Ahh, relief. Just normal hearing from both ears feels remarkably good.
 
Hearing is a good thing. God gave us ears. With them, we hear great pieces of music, books on tape, words of love from those closest to us, the preaching of the Word of God, or necessary instructions from a boss or coworker.  Maybe it’s because of sinuses, or maybe it’s helping Alta get going on the deaf ministry, but I’ve been thinking about hearing and listening.
 
A recent article in Forbes magazine explains two counterproductive things people do when they listen to others.
 
The first is listening for new information. That sounds fine on one level, but it undercuts the person speaking to you.. It’s like scanning an article online looking for content you don’t already know. You aren’t really reading just as you aren’t really listening.
 
The second is listening to hear whether the person agrees with you. Usually, people tend to tune out a person they perceive as not agreeing with them. We tend to listen only if we perceive the person to be in agreement with us on whatever issue is being discussed.
 
The author of the article calls these “self-focused goals” and claims that such approaches lead to a shorter attention span and a failure to truly connect with the people with whom we speak. Though common, lazy listening can have dire consequences in the workplace.
 
The Forbes article quoted a study that found that a group of doctors facing lawsuits listened to their patients description of their symptoms for an average of eleven seconds. This in contrast to another group of doctors with zero lawsuits whose average listening to their patients was greater than three minutes. Malpractice and people leaving a doctor’s care worse than when they started—not exactly an endorsement to superficial listening.
 
Proverbs 18:13 warns us: “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.”

This kind of thing happens to all of us—we listen but we don’t hear.
 
We’re the distracted parents who say yes to our child’s request without realizing that we just agreed to a birthday party at Disney World for said child and his ten closest friends.
 
We’re the ones in the Sunday service who take notes during the sermon, and we look down and see points one and three. What happened to point two? That’s when thoughts of lunch took over and our listening went on pause.
 
Or we’re the ones sitting across from close friends as they pour out their hearts, only to glance up from our phones and say, “Sorry, what was that again?”
 
What about during small group prayer time, and you lose track of what requests have been prayed for and what ones are still unchecked—and you are the leader.
 
Bad listening examples abound. Listening is important when it comes to the workplace as the Forbes article warns, but it’s especially crucial interpersonally and in the church.
 
With the people around us, we need to both listen and hear.
 
I’ve been making excuses in this area, blaming my bad listening on this multi-tasking texting scanning scrolling speed-reading age in which we live. It’s true. We have more good excuses for not listening than ever before in history. That sounds convincing, don’t you think? It's just the age in which we l ive.
 
When Jesus says in Matthew 11:15, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear” I know he’s talking about people listening and hearing the truths he’s preaching.
 
But there’s something else going on with the family of God. What happens when we stop listening to “the least of these”? Or what holy and wonderful things might happen when we do listen?
 
“Just as love to God begins with listening to His Word, so the beginning of love for the brethren is learning to listen to them,” wrote Dietrich Bonhoeffer in his book Life Together. “It is God’s love for us that He not only gives us His Word but also lends us His ear. So it is His work that we do for our brother when we learn to listen to him.
 
“…Many people are looking for an ear that will listen. They do not find it among Christians, because these Christians are talking where they should be listening. But he who can no longer listen to his brother will soon be no longer listening to God either; he will be doing nothing but prattle in the presence of God too.”
 
If God can use our ears to hear the heart of other people, how can we be deaf to the call to listen to one another?
 
As I begin a new season of church life, I want to listen better—to the kids in Kindergarten, to the people praying, to the people I’m praying for, to the pastor preaching, to my wife. I want to listen to them as I want to be listened to myself. I want to make good use of the ear God has lent me to hear as he hears from those in need.
 
God guide us to be a community of slow-to-speak people who hear and listen.
 
“Hear instruction and be wise, and do not neglect it.
Blessed is the one who listens to me, watching daily at my gates, waiting beside my doors” Proverbs 8:34, 35